A new mom was left in shock after her mother-in-law had an extreme reaction to what was seemingly a simple rule. Distressed by having possibly caused her husband’s family to drift away, she turned to social media to ask for advice on how to proceed with the difficult matter.
She wrote:
“Our newborn spent 12 days in the NICU. Like most new parents, we have a ’no kissing the baby’ rule. He is 5 weeks old. No shots yet and no real protection. We are his first line of defense. My husband told his mom no kissing and the last time we saw her I wore him in an attempt to prevent that. It didn’t work — she got up in my space and kissed him anyways. I was so awestruck, I didn’t say anything.
This kept happening. Then, on my husband’s birthday she did it again — three times after being told not to — and my husband decided that he had to lay it all out for her in writing because us verbally telling her was obviously not working. Later in the day, he told her she broke our rules and that it’s a simple rule, so how can we ever trust her to babysit in the future if she can’t even follow this one rule now.
She sent him back a snotty reply that essentially said, ’Well, I have no reason to see you anytime soon anyways,’ and then proceeded to tell all of his sisters what a horrible son he was. His stepdad called him and flipped on him for ’talking to his mother like a stranger’ and his sisters essentially said that he would have to apologize to her even though we were in the right because she probably won’t apologize to us.
Almost a week later, she texted him an essay essentially blaming me for everything. She said that I want him to cut her off from his life and that I’ve always hated her; that I’m very rude when she asks how I’m doing, and that I physically recoil when she touches me. She also said she never kissed our son, even though we both saw it. It was a very mean message that was 85% centered around how terrible I am, even though the issue is her kissing our son.
So he decided to go confront her by going to her house. Well — he recorded the interaction because he knows that she’ll try and spin it to her sisters, and I can’t believe what I heard.”
“She hates my guts. Sounds like she probably always has. She says that ever since he’s been with me, he’s changed his relationship with her.
She also said he’s a bad son, and she doesn’t need parenting advice from him, and that his sister never had these rules for her. The Mayo Clinic says kissing is only ok after 8 weeks. She just kept digging her own grave for basically 35 minutes straight, kept belittling our rules, and finally said she never ever wants to see us again.
I feel so awful for my husband. Also, how am I supposed to explain to my child when they’re grown why they don’t have a relationship with their dad’s family? The ’no kissing’ rule seemed so easy and straight forward, and it ended up making his dad have a falling out with his own mom.
Is it going to seem silly in retrospect? Do you think there’s any way we can repair our relationship after how she acted and what she said about our family? It’s clear to me, she’s always hated me, which was honestly a surprise to me because until this happened I thought our relationship was basically fine. Not super best friends but fine enough.”
Source: brightside
