One woman shared how her boyfriend asked her to be a stay-at-home mom.
Here is her story and concerns.
I (23F) recently found out I’m pregnant with my (25M) boyfriend, Andrew’s child. We have been dating for three years and our relationship is pretty good. We both want children eventually, though we planned to have them later after we’re a bit more established in our careers. The pregnancy came as a surprise. Initially, we considered aborting or placing the baby for adoption but decided to keep it. I graduated college last year and have a job that pays okay money with the possibility of future promotions and raises. My boyfriend works as an electrician and also makes good money, so with both of our incomes we should be able to afford the baby.
I admit I burst out laughing when he suggested this. It’s just insane to me. Sure, we might be able to afford me being a SAHM, but it would require budgeting every penny he made. I also just graduated — does he think I went to college for four years just to be a SAHM and spend my days doing his laundry and cooking his meals? Also, what if he gets sick or dies? Also, I’m the first person in my entire family to earn my degree. My parents were immigrants and both had elementary school level education. I’m very proud of my education and career — this is something he knows as I’ve told him, so I’m surprised he would ever suggest this.
Being a stay-at-home mom can be really exhausting. Everyone has their own way of being a parent and raising their kids. There is no single right way, and each family finds what works best for them.
