My husband and I have been saving for a house, carefully putting away every dollar we can. Then, out of the blue, my mother-in-law offered us $35,000 for the down payment—on one condition: she wanted to move in with us.
At first glance, it sounded incredibly generous. But there was a catch. My MIL is extremely controlling. She criticizes my cooking, constantly “reorganizes” my kitchen without asking, and once even told me I should “dress more modestly” in my own home. I can barely handle her weekend visits—living together full-time would be unbearable.
Still, to show appreciation for her offer, my husband invited her over for dinner. I decided to be gracious. I smiled, made polite conversation, and even cooked her favorite dish. Everything was going smoothly—until she took one bite and suddenly rushed to the bathroom.
What she didn’t know was that I had secretly added a small amount of coriander, an ingredient she’s mildly allergic to. When she came back, she was livid. She accused me of doing it on purpose, reminding me that I knew about her allergy. My husband was furious, too.
I looked at both of them and said calmly, “You’re offering us the money with conditions. Fine. But I have conditions too. This will be our home—my husband’s and mine. That means our house, our rules. And since I’ll be the one cooking, I’ll use whatever ingredients I choose.”
My MIL was beside herself with anger. She left before dessert, slamming the door behind her. Later, my husband accused me of disrespecting her, insisting she only wanted to help us buy a house. I told him that if his mother truly wants to move in, she needs to respect my boundaries.
Now I can’t stop wondering—should I have just accepted her offer without setting any rules? Or did I go too far by standing my ground?
Source: brightside.me