My stepdaughter has always asked my husband for money. Sometimes small amounts, sometimes bigger ones, but the pattern is the same. She asks, he pays, no questions asked. I always thought it was odd, especially since her husband, Nolan, has a very solid job and makes good money. I never understood why she needed to keep turning to her dad.
Then recently, she asked for $15,000. This time it was supposedly for “home upgrades.” My husband was already preparing to make the transfer when Nolan called me directly. He sounded serious and told me under no circumstances should we give her that money: “Don’t give her a dime!”
According to him, she has been secretly asking her father for cash behind his back and stashing it away in a separate bank account he knew nothing about.
He said she’s been withdrawing money from their joint account and telling him it was for her dad and me, which was a complete lie. I told my husband everything Nolan had just told me. He was furious and cancelled the $15,000 transfer immediately.
Afterward, Nolan told us he wants to pay back everything my husband has already given her. He said he didn’t want us carrying the burden of her lies. A couple of days later, I found out Nolan had actually moved out of their house and is seriously considering filing for divorce.
And now, of course, my stepdaughter is directing all her anger at me. She called and screamed that I had ruined her life, that I turned her dad against her, that everything was fine until I “stuck my nose where it didn’t belong.” I reminded her that Nolan came to me; I didn’t go digging. But she just hung up on me.
Now I’m stuck in the middle of this mess. On one hand, I know my husband deserved to know the truth, and Nolan had every right to reach out. On the other hand, my stepdaughter is furious with me, and I can already feel the family tension building. I don’t know if I should try to smooth things over with her, keep my distance entirely, or step back and let her and Nolan deal with the fallout themselves.
Source: brightside.me